The role of self confidence when meeting the right man
Written by Helen Sunny
Here you will know, do you really need to be a self-confident woman to make a man fall in love with you and how to be sure if your boyfriend is the right man for you.
It is considered that you should be a self-confident woman, if you want to get a man of your dreams and avoid singleness. You will find many text-lines like "men want self-sufficient and secure women", "men like confident women" in online female magazines. I think that there is a man for every woman. Also, we always have a choice: either to meet this man or another one. The only question is how to make the right choice? how to be sure if he is that special someone? Let's try to answer this question by analyzing the role of self-confidence in my personal love experience.
Self-confidence is like a plant: the better ground, care and environment -> the more power it has. When I met my future husband, I had some self-confidence, but I knew it was not enough, I wanted to have much more own power. On the other side, I had good personality traits, for example, sincerity, open-mindness, and I was a good listener. Those traits attracted the right man for me. I compared my self-confidence with my boyfriend's confidence in the beginning and in the middle of our relationship:
As seen in the diagram, my confidence had been growing step-by-step before meeting the boyfriend. When I met him, my self-confidence was above zero. Our love relationship increased belief in myself and my abilities. The first conclusion that we can make according to my life experience is that that the level of your self-confidence on the first date and afterwards tells whether it is reasonable to move on or not, stay or go.
Good sign: Your self-confidence began or continue rising.
Red flag: You find your self-confidence decreasing.
Of course, we know that we should be totally independent of social influence. But, in practice, this rule mainly works in official relationship. We usually keep our soul "closed" and guard it carefully, when we talk to colleagues or business partners, that is why it's difficult for them to hurt us. But when we come home or meet our best friends somewhere, we are actually much more "opened" and relaxed, and, accordingly, we are more susceptible to outside influence. Love relationship should:
